Attraction isn’t a straight line for everyone. For some people, it bends, loops, quiets down, then comes roaring back in a completely different direction. And while most folks are familiar with labels like gay, straight, or bisexual, far fewer know the word that finally helped one woman understand herself after three decades of confusion: abrosexual.
Emma Flint spent most of her life trying to make sense of why her attraction kept shifting. At times she felt fully lesbian. Months later she’d feel drawn to men. Then there were long stretches where she felt nothing at all—no spark, no interest, just a kind of emotional stillness. And each time her attraction changed, she felt like she was betraying her own identity.
For years, she carried that turmoil alone. Flint grew up believing sexuality was supposed to be stable. People around her treated identity like a fixed destination—something you declare once and never revisit. So every time her internal compass spun in another direction, she tried to force herself to “pick a lane,” even when none of them fit for long.
She described those years as feeling lost at sea. Not confused about who she loved, but confused about why the rules she kept hearing didn’t match her reality. One season she felt like a lesbian, the next she felt more bisexual, and sometimes she felt no attraction at all. It wasn’t indecision. It was change. Constant, natural, undeniable change.
Then, one night while scrolling through an online forum, she saw the word that flipped the lights on: abrosexual.
The definition floored her—people whose sexual attraction fluctuates. Sometimes toward specific genders. Sometimes toward all. Sometimes toward no one. Not random. Not fickle. Just fluid in a way most people never talk about.
For the first time in her life, she felt seen.
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