In today’s world, many people face questions about whether they plan to have children. It’s a deeply personal decision—yet one that often invites public scrutiny. Some are asked why they don’t have kids, while others, especially those with unique life circumstances, are asked why they do.
More than twenty years ago, Patti White of California found herself navigating this complex space when her daughter Lisa, who has Down syndrome, shared unexpected news: she was going to be a mother.
Lisa had always been independent. She lived in her own apartment, worked full-time at a local Goodwill store, and was well-known in her community for her friendly, reliable nature. Her coworkers appreciated her attention to detail, and her work ethic spoke for itself.
Lisa was also in a committed relationship with a man who, like her, had Down syndrome. They lived separately but maintained a strong, respectful bond. Patti, like any supportive parent, had spoken with Lisa about adulthood, relationships, and responsibilities. At the time, medical information suggested that parenthood was unlikely—but life had a different plan.
One day, while checking voicemail, Patti heard her daughter’s voice full of joy: “Hi Mom! I just wanted to let you know… you’re going to be a grandmother!”
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