Observing Their Influences
I’ve tried to figure out where all this heightened religious engagement is coming from. Is it peer-driven? Are there influential figures at church or in the youth group encouraging them to be more devout? Or did they stumble upon spiritual content online that spoke to them? I’ve asked them, and their answers vary: some say they love the sense of community and purpose, while others mention personal encounters with God they can’t fully explain.
Despite my concerns, I do see that they’re happy. They’ve formed close-knit friendships in their church groups, and they seem eager to learn more about faith. As their mother, I want to respect what they’re drawn to—even if it’s more intense than I originally expected.
Balancing Faith and Everyday Life
Through trial and error, I’ve come to realize I can’t discourage their faith—nor do I want to. But I can help guide them to maintain balance. Here are a few approaches I’m taking:
- Keeping Communication Open: I regularly ask how they’re feeling. Instead of grilling them, I try to talk about their spiritual experiences in a curious, non-judgmental way. That way, they feel comfortable sharing their doubts, fears, or excitement.
- Participating Occasionally: Sometimes I’ll join them at their youth group or volunteer event. I don’t hover, but I make the effort to see what they’re learning and who they’re interacting with. It helps me feel more at ease, and it also shows them I respect their interests.
- Encouraging Other Activities: I gently remind them about their homework, sports, or hanging out with friends. While faith is important, so is maintaining a balanced life.
- Promoting Critical Thinking: I let them know it’s okay to ask questions and explore the reasons behind certain beliefs. Blind faith can be risky; thoughtful, well-examined faith can be grounding.
- Seeking Guidance When Needed: If I notice unhealthy behaviors—like extreme guilt or anxiety—I’m not afraid to talk to a pastor or counselor. I want them to have access to healthy, supportive guidance if religious devotion becomes overwhelming.
Reflecting on My Role
As a parent, I’m learning right alongside my children. Their passion for church activities and scripture sometimes makes me wonder if I should rediscover my own faith more deeply. In a way, they inspire me. I’m reminded that religion can be a powerful force for good when approached with humility and love.
At the same time, I try to remain grounded and ensure they don’t lose sight of the myriad joys and responsibilities of being teenagers—forming diverse friendships, pursuing academic interests, and exploring their talents.
Final Thoughts
I’m still navigating whether I should feel purely happy, slightly uneasy, or both. Ultimately, I want them to grow into compassionate, thoughtful individuals who can stand by their faith without alienating others—or themselves. Watching them embark on a spiritual path that’s more intense than mine wasn’t something I anticipated, but I’m choosing to see it as a journey we can take together, each of us learning a bit more about faith, love, and balance along the way.
Even though I can’t say I fully understand their level of devotion, I’m determined to support them. Because as long as they keep their hearts open to kindness and their minds open to learning, I believe they’ll find a healthy, meaningful expression of faith—and I’ll be right there, cheering them on as a proud, if sometimes bewildered, mother.