Online conversations surged earlier this year after Michelle chose not to attend the inauguration or the memorial services for former President Jimmy Carter. While the absence drew headlines, Michelle revealed that it was not a decision she made lightly. “It took everything in me to resist doing what was expected and instead focus on what felt right for me,” she admitted.
To stay firm in her decision, she even avoided preparing an outfit in advance. “I know myself. If the outfit is hanging in the closet, it’s too easy to fall into a role that others expect of me.”
Taraji P. Henson commended Michelle for her honesty, noting how often women are expected to manage the emotional needs of those around them. “Women are seen as the glue, the caretakers, and that expectation never really stops,” Henson said. “It’s overwhelming.”
Michelle agreed, adding that she’s still working on breaking those patterns — not just for herself, but as an example for her daughters, Malia and Sasha. “If I’m still trapped trying to meet everyone else’s expectations, what message does that send to the next generation?” she asked.
She emphasized that setting healthy boundaries isn’t selfish — it’s essential. “I want my daughters to start practicing saying ‘no’ earlier than I did, so that muscle is strong,” she said.
“And guess what?” she added with a smile. “The world keeps spinning even when you say no. It doesn’t fall apart because you take care of yourself.”
With her reflections, Michelle Obama continues to spark meaningful conversations about mental health, self-care, and the power of personal choice — reminding women everywhere that sometimes the most empowering statement is simply choosing what’s best for you.