2. The Indecisive Orderers
“What do you recommend?” quickly turns into three changes before the food arrives. While questions are fine, last-minute switches slow down the process. When in doubt — go with your first choice and make your server’s night a little smoother.
3. The Phantom Tippers
Polite words are nice, but in the U.S., servers rely on tips as a core part of their income. If the service was good, 20% is standard. A few extra dollars can make the difference between a good shift and a disappointing one.
4. The Split-the-Bill Surprise Squad
Seven friends, seven different requests for splitting the check. This can turn a quick payment into a 15-minute math marathon. Decide in advance, or let your server know early if separate checks are needed.
5. The Modifier Mayhem
Requests like “no onions, extra mushrooms, gluten-free bun, sauce on the side, make it vegan but still with cheese” can overwhelm the kitchen. Preferences are fine — just be clear, kind, and realistic.
6. The Mobile Phone Zombies
A server is explaining the specials, but no one looks up. Even a few seconds of eye contact shows basic respect and makes the interaction better for everyone.
7. The Last-Minute Crowd
Arriving five minutes before closing might seem fine, but it often means the staff stays well past their shift. If you must come in late, order efficiently, be extra polite, and tip generously.
Why It Matters
Servers are more than their job title. They’re students paying tuition, parents working extra hours, people chasing goals while managing long, demanding shifts. A kind gesture, a smile, or a fair tip might be the bright moment in a tiring day.
Small Ways to Show Respect in Restaurants
- Greet your server when they approach.
- Look up from your phone when ordering.
- Say “thank you” when food or drinks arrive.
- Tip fairly — 20% for good service.
- Clean up after children as best you can.
- Leave a kind note for exceptional service.
Behind Every Apron Is a Real Person
Every meal you enjoy in a restaurant comes with unseen effort: the hands that carried your plate, the feet that hurried from kitchen to table, the smile given even on an exhausting day.
Next time you dine out, take a moment to notice — and show appreciation.
When you think back on your best dining experiences, was it the food, the atmosphere, or the server who made it truly memorable?